Your Wedding day is coming and you’re all abuzz with the details… the dress, the fitting, the paper, the appointments, the tasting, and the list continues. You’ve been considering each element… refining the aesthetic of your day and the people you will share it with in hopes that it will be a beautiful reflection of what is to come. Even your conversations with your groom are continually being hijacked by the next thing on your list. It is so easy for what is to come to get lost in the planning.
Your Wedding is an important expression of your hopes for the future… but it is not your future. But oh how easy it is to be enticed by the pretty details and lose focus…. You may even forget to invest in your romance and the foundation of your marriage. But now one wants that to happen… You want the happy ever after too.
So, here are three simple things you can do to keep your forever in focus in the midst of the Wedding day planning…
1. Pick 4 (0r more) couples who have marriages that you admire… Take them out for coffee, lunch, or dinner and ask them questions like this: “What makes your marriage work?” “What do you wish you knew before you got married” “Tell us about your first year of marriage.” (Hint: try to keep the focus on marriage not the Wedding)
2. Pick a book on marriage to read together, and then schedule dates to talk about it. I reccomend “The Meaning of Marriage” By Tim Keller or “The Five Love Languages” by Gary Chapmen. Both of these books of been influential in my 11 years of marriage to Ryan Weaver.
3. Handwrite love letters to each other and exchange them weekly. Not only will these keep the romance in focus during your engagement, they will also become treasured keepsakes that you will re-read endlessly in the years to come.
I also highly recommend pre-marital counseling during the six months leading up to your Wedding. I promise you won’t regret the time and energy you will give to counseling. Nothing prepares you better for creating a marriage that endures in sickness and health. Great marriages don’t happen on accident…. So get to planning your happily ever after.
Planning Your Happily Ever After… Maryland Wedding Photographer